I usually avoid controversial issues … it’s the “white” in my mostly “yellow” personality. But I chimed in on this one. Please read my opinion here. I believe two things strongly: 1- We all should be able to choose; 2- Family is the strength of the Nation. I’m happy to hear your opinions, but even if you strongly disagree with me, please be kind.
I can’t imagine the emotions a birth mother feels every single day of her life. And I can’t imagine the escalating emotions that must accompany an impending meeting. So I don’t know how our son’s birth mother did it. . . but from our perspective as the adoptive family, she did so many things “right.”
After the first phone call introducing our son back into his birth mother’s life, she prepared for four months for an in-person meeting. By flying half way around the world, she sacrificed time and money to meet him and to meet us. Click here to read the things she did perfectly right.
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Although sports and education and friends are all important, being a unified family that lifts and supports each member is what really matters. Adopted or biological, they all need each other! Doug Walker talks about what really matters when it comes to raising children in this short video:
This Teenager’s Friend Asked About His “Real” MOTHER. Birth Moms and Adoptive Moms Alike Will Love the Sassy Response!
It can be shocking and disappointing when a couple adopts a child only to find that this much-hoped-for child doesn’t react right away to bonding attempts. But persistence is the key. As advances are made and children begin to respond to bonding efforts, eventually it will become important for the child to be the one who initiates a bonding moment. But how does one know when to let the child take the lead? And how, exactly, do you let your child know that it’s his turn?
Although Bryan was in our foster care for nearly two years before the judge signed adoption papers, our mother-son bond was instantaneous. As years have passed and we’ve tripped through toddler-hood, traipesed through elementary school, stumbled through the teenage years, and approached adulthood, our bond has tightened. This bond has showered me with emotional security, so when Bryan announced he was ready to search for his birth mother, I found myself ready to help him … with my whole heart. See the full article and pictures here.
I first met Deanne Walker over the phone when conducting research for article I’m writing for Adoption.com. Doug and Deanne are passionate about giving their all to their family which includes 19 children. Touch-bonding is one way of showing of love, of helping to heal and of promoting inclusion. Months after our first telephone visit, I was blessed to spend some time in the Walker home and watched the magic of family love unfold. They truly practice what they preach!
Deanne Walker grew up in a home with lots of children, including foster siblings. I asked her how this affected her decision to adopt … her answer is surprising. Click here to see the 3-minute video.